I've been looking for ways for it too stop ruining my life but with little success. I have no doubt it will be back either. But for right now, it feels good. Simply because last week we had shocking issues getting D to pre school - well I did, I dressed her one day, and 2 days running took her screaming self the entire length of the village just to get there, OY what a horrible thing to do. Choice worked but we still had other tantrums which have been huge and horrible and distressing for all of us. Today she has a cold so is home and this is probably the reason for the screaming, but we've decided we're not going to push the issue. If she doesn't want to go, so be it. If we end up home schooling so be it. Relieved.